Meeting Michael Bublé | My Grief Journey

Not the Only One

May 12, 2014

To learn more about Michael and ways to connect with him, I joined his fan club, Bungalow-B. As a “newbie” I sought like-minded people to educate me about how to go about meeting Michael. After all, successful fans would have a lot of useful advice. I definitely found tips, and if you also want to meet Michael, I recommend signing up as well. Sometimes the fan club runs contests and there’s the bonus of early ticket sales.

What really struck me while browsing the site, was that I am not unique in my motivation to meet Michael or attend his shows. Michael’s music soothes many grieving souls. I have learned about people who have lost babies and spouses who are planning on attending performances to reconnect with their loved ones. Through the performance and all the emotion and pain it brings up, they hope to find some healing and connection.

What really struck me while browsing the site, was that I am not unique in my motivation to meet Michael or attend his shows. Michael’s music soothes many grieving souls. I have learned about people who have lost babies and spouses who are planning on attending performances to reconnect with their loved ones. Through the performance and all the emotion and pain it brings up, they hope to find some healing and connection.

I just wanted to take a moment to acknowledge those grieving souls. They are bold, brave and courageous in my eyes risking much to gain even more. But what motivates us to dive into the pain through music? Love.

Grief is a strange beast. It’s painful yet necessary to maintain a connection to those who have died. Grief comes and goes. For many, grief is irrevocably linked to music, other sounds, smells, locations, colours, stuffed penguins, that trigger gut-wrenching responses. But once the painful response passes, we’re left with our memories, our love, our strength and a sense of being okay, at least until the next wave of pain washes over us. Because of our love for that special person, we’ll revisit our grief again and again regardless the price.

I find it near impossible to access memories of Jacob without feeling some emotional upheaval or pain. Even if the pain is not extreme at a particular moment, it’s still there although at times maybe not playing a starring role. In my heart, I know that the experience of pain is worth it because I Jacob and my love for him is worth remembering. I choose to engage in grief to maintain my connection, rather than avoid the pain and my son’s memory.

Many of us, who have lost someone special, do things to help us remember, like attend concerts. However difficult, we seek out ways to honour our relationship with the one who has passed on. Through the experience, we reconnect with bittersweet memories. But what’s the benefit? Healing.

Spending time in our grief, talking about our loved one, looking at photos, sharing memories, sharing our stories; all are healing. As wounds are re-opened with love through grief, the infected, unhelpful bits are expelled. With each spoonful of post-grieving love, we become a little stronger and the wounds heal a bit more. Wounds can take a long time to heal, and they may not ever completely cover over. But healing is an ongoing process, and it’s a reward for being vulnerable.

This process of creating a website, writing my story, telling others about it, asking for help and putting myself “out there” has been tremendously healing. I am grateful for the pain that I have to push through and the delight of the memories I revisited.

Blessings and peace to those who, like me, soothe their souls with the sounds of Michael Bublé.

Originally published on www.meetingmichaelbluble.com

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