Wow! Even I was impressed with my post about the Giving Key and all it stirred up in me. But how do I follow that up? I feel like I need to keep things at such I high level. But really that’s a crock. Totally in my head. I need only do my best that I can do in this moment – which is usually pretty damn good when it comes down to it.
My preconceived notions need to step aside so I can write something new. They hold me back and keep me in fear and tied to expectation, so they have got to go. So here we go, I’m going to write a new post about letting go – really.
Just the other day I was talking about The Giving Key post and about how many ways we can let go. The last few weeks have been particularly busy at home and with work which means not a lot of Richelle time. (Caveat – Richelle did not schedule Richelle time.) When a free afternoon presented itself, I was first inclined to do work and catch up on things that needed doing. But this made me feel bitter, emotional and unmotivated. Then I asked myself, “why?”
Simple. I needed time for me. To do something that is wholly for me, or at least high on my personal priorities list. Not that working isn’t important, but my soul needed some attention. Alas, my blog came to mind. At first, I worked on updating existing blogs, fiddled with things, looked to see if I had some “old” written items I wanted to post. Essentially, I was avoiding writing something new. (Ahem – fear of failure.)
But here I am: Enjoying some quiet time and space to write, so I shall. I am going to ignore my fear that this won’t be as good as the last post. Yup. And here goes my mental mantra, “I am not going to over think this, I am not going to over think this, I am not going to over think this…” I am overthinking this. Well, that backfired. How about, “Let it go, let it go…” Now I have that song in my head! Sigh. Okay, really. I’m good. Let’s do this. Let’s talk about letting go.
Letting go involves an element of trust – in yourself. You have to believe you can do it or you won’t. Take this post for instance. If I didn’t believe I could do it, I wouldn’t persist and I wouldn’t let go of my need for comparison or my striving for perfection. I wouldn’t actually do anything and I’d remain stuck.
We humans can easily get stuck in our lives. But thankfully, we can also change our lives just as easily by letting go. When I think about the concept of letting go, I realize there are so many ways it can happen:
- Opening our mouths and letting our the words fall out. (Yeah, that song Sara Bareilles – Brave).
- Dancing like no one is watching. Simply moving your body how it wishes to be moved without holding back.
- Forgiving ourselves or others. No longer focusing on something you cannot change, some mistake made long ago and allowing the healing in.
- Saying goodbye. Allowing others to have their own experience and choosing something different for yourself.
- Experiencing a really good, big, ugly cry. Expressing all that is pent up inside you, letting it all out.
- No longer holding onto things that you no longer need or that don’t serve you anymore, be it something material, mental, or emotional.
- Allowing others to do it their way.
- Allowing your child to try and fail, all the while still supporting them through it.
- Saying, “yes” to something you want, bypassing the voice in your head that says you don’t deserve it.
- Trusting that the ideas and words in your head will make it out, in great form, so they can be shared.
Letting go is a multi-faceted thing. Something that we all do in many ways over and over again in our lives. Sometimes we even need to let go of the same thing multiple times. Letting go is a lesson learned, an experience remembered, a love lost. It enriches our lives helping us grow in new ways. Growth is the crux of it. Stepping through fear too. For it’s impossible to let go without facing some sort of fear.
Thank you for joining me in my journey of letting go – of my words and of my fear of judgment. Cheers to more writing!