Meeting Michael Bublé

My NEW Big, Scary Goal

February 27, 2015

In my last blog post that was WAY too long ago, I mentioned that I had a new big, scary goal. I knew what it was then, but I was too scared to share it. It was so big I had to really think, “Do I really want to do it?” Okay, I KNEW I wanted to do it, I just had to stop being a wimp and COMMIT!

Along came Erin Skye Kelly’s, Transformation Weekend 2015. Time for a new dream board – uh oh! I knew what had to be on it – front and center. It was that goal that just wouldn’t get out of my head. That thing I kept thinking about and that I knew in my heart and soul that I must do. Boy! Scary!

Part of me was wigging out, “but if I put it on there, I’ll have to do it. And OTHER people will KNOW about it and EXPECT me to do it too. Moreover, if I SAY to another human being I am going to do it, then I must do it. I am not a good liar. When I say I will do something, I do it. Worse still, I can’t lie to myself. I know when I’m not going in the direction I committed to going and it makes me miserable. I’m an imperfect human being so sometimes I f**k up and don’t do something. But when it’s big and meaningful, you do it.

Before I tell you what it is, I think sharing how it came about because it’s significant and relevant to this blog and website in particular. It came to me like lightning in my brain. Right after meeting and having my photo taken with Michael Bublé at the sound check party at Rogers Place Arena in Edmonton on June 22, 2014, I was struck with a crazy idea. I turned to my friend Leah, who had accompanied me and blurted out, “I’m going to raise $100,000 for Alberta’s Children’s Hospital”. And in that moment, I knew I would. I still know it. It will happen. No question.  I don’t know how many times on the way back to Calgary and in the following weeks that I told Leah, “I’m going to raise $100,000!” It was probably pretty funny to watch.

So there you have it: I’m going to raise $100,000 for the Alberta Children Hospital Foundation(ACHF). In the time between my moment of inspiration and committing to my goal, I have chosen to support a specific program that is funded through ACHF. This $100,000 will be earmarked for the pediatric grief program that is operated through Rotary Flames House in Calgary, Alberta.

Through the pediatric grief support program, I continue to find the grief support I need, when I need it and at no charge. The tremendously caring staff and resources available help me through the various hurdles that arise while I learn to live my new life without Jacob.

Sadly, it is also through this program that I continue to meet newly grieving parents whose journey through loss is just beginning. While I am embarking on this fundraising goal to say thank you and pay it forward for what I have received, I cannot help but feel the need to step forward for other grieving parents as well.

I’d like to share a little more about my history and why this had to be a big fundraising goal. You see, I am honoured to have been related to a certain philanthropic fundraising superstar: Mel Kotler. Mel was Jacob’s Zaidi and he was a very special man, in fact, he’s been referred to as the Million Dollar Man. He raised one million dollars for the United Way in Kelowna, BC. “If Mel could raise $1,000,000 in a city of just over 100,000 people then surely I can raise $100,000 in a city over a 1,000,000 people” keeps rattling through my brain.

Mel was a person who didn’t ask why he asked why not. Mel was not afraid to ask people to support a worthy cause, to join him in his quest, and he gave of his time, talents and resources freely. He had a huge heart and he inspired me to become more and do more in my life. For that, I will be eternally grateful. He will forever hold a special place in my heart and he is part of the inspiration for this goal.

Sadly, Mel passed away a couple of years ago or I would be asking him for advice – and support.  So I’m channeling my fundraising mentor, Mel, as I move forward with this goal. I know that Jacob and Mel are cheering me on from above. I know I’ll succeed. I’m committed, no matter how long it takes.

But who says it has to take a long time? It will take longer if I do not begin.

And so I ask you to please support me in this important project by contributing generously to theJacob Kotler Memorial Fund at the Alberta Children’s Hospital Foundation. But also please consider asking at least two other individuals to contribute as well. Join me in my fundraising endeavour and together we can ensure continued care for grieving parents.

It is faster and easier than ever to support the Jacob Kotler Memorial Fund at the Alberta Children’s Hospital Foundation by making your tax-deductible donation online, just click here. Or copy and paste the following in your web browser:

If you would prefer, you can mail your contribution to the address listed below. (Make all cheques payable to: Alberta Children’s Hospital Foundation and please put my name on the memo line.)

Alberta Children’s Hospital Foundation
2888 Shaganappi Trail NW
Calgary, Alberta T3B 6A8

Whatever you can give will help – it all adds up! I greatly appreciate your support and will keep you posted on my progress.

I’ll be blogging about my progress, thoughts, and life lessons along the way, so check back periodically. Oh, and as always, I have more ideas and plans up my sleeve. More details to follow!

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